EXILE AND DISPERSION OF FAMILIES Engin Erkiner
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EXILE AND THE DISSOLUTION OF FAMILIES Engin Erkiner
To European countries after September 12, 1980 It is often difficult for married couples who have to come to these countries to continue living together for years. They decided to live together in a developing political environment, but the conditions of European countries are different.
Many couples first had the opportunity to get to know each other in exile, and some of them did not like each other very much.
Not a small number of people first got to know the leaders of the organization in exile and “Did I see this as a leader all these years?” Some married couples have asked themselves a similar question: Have I lived with this for years?
Let's say the association was able to overcome this problem. The couples adapted to each other in a different environment, at least initially, but a bigger problem arises.
Just because couples have compatible characteristics at the beginning does not mean that they can achieve the same harmony over the years in a different environment. Couples can develop in different directions and this is common.
Therefore, the differences that existed at the beginning gradually increase and after a while, The harmony between couples decreases and they become alienated from each other.
For example, one of the men or women who take a language course together quickly learns how to speak a language. The fact that one learns while the other cannot learn, one can work while the other cannot find a job, inevitably creates distance between people.
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This is a normal development and as examples can be seen, we should not complain about "families falling apart".
The environment of being together and the environment of exile are very different from each other
and this Differences will naturally affect men and women differently.
Separating is as natural as deciding to live together, and separation can lead to tragedy.
it should not be rotated.
among Turkish workers in the 1980s "Honour killings" are not seen among revolutionaries. After all, they are more educated, more civilized people.
We should not conclude from this that "there will be no problems". Some differences become “organizational problems.” If they had the approval of the organization when they decided to live together years ago, they are expected to do so when they separate. They may not, those years are over.
This issue can also be resolved without causing any major problems - perhaps with a little anger.
If one of the seceding parties became close to a person from a rival organization after a while, it could sometimes rise to the level of an "organizational problem", at least in the 1980s.
Now like this Nobody cares about these things, but in those years it could sometimes appear as a big problem.
I know that there are similar problems in Turkey between those who are released after being in prison for years and their spouses who may or may not be waiting for them.
The breakdown of unity when major political changes occur is specific to exile
it is not, but the probability is higher here.
